Wow am I that bad?
Firstly I think what you are talking about is exposure, and most people nowadays don't bother with a light meter as the cameras meter is pretty accurate.
What I think you are describing is low key photography? Where the subject is correctly exposed, but the background is black?
To do this you ideally need a flash gun and a snoot, where you can control the specific area you want to illuminate, control the exposure of the background using aperture.
In post processing open the levels box in photoshop and while holding down the 'alt' key move the left hand slider until you have the black you want, this will remove any areas of low level detail you don't want, and it gives you a margin of error to work within.
You may need to consider an off camera flash trigger to do this and I'm afraid that you're going to have to do the whole thing in manual settings - no bad thing as you'll learn loads from it, just practice on a non living subject !